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How do I Deal With Low Self-Esteem on the Job Hunt?
So I have issues with self-esteem. I am seeing the doctors about it and I'm taking medicine to help me with my depression and anxiety. I currently work nights at a local supermarket collecting items to be shipped out to our online customers. While searching for a job recently, something hit me. I can't sell myself to anyone because I fundamentally think I would be lying to them. The very act of detailing my skillset and experience feels wrong because I think I'm making myself out to be more competent than I actually am. There has to be a better way of approaching this in my head, I just can't seem to find it.
Don’t feel discouraged if you see other people getting new jobs on LinkedIn or on social media. Remember, social media is all about appearances - people like to show off their success, and you rarely see or hear about their struggles.
I posted that I got an new job recently. And many of you congratulated me (thank you!). But what I didn’t mention was that it literally took 8 months of countless job applications, hours of interviews, rejections after rejections and several mental health crises to get here. I felt like such a failure after seeing so many of my connections announcing that they got a new job, and I felt like something was wrong with me. But after I got a new job, I realized - I’m sure many people were in the same boat as I was, they just never mentioned the struggles behind it. So if you’re seeing posts about other peoples’ success, and you’re feeling down because you can’t get a job right now or you feel like nothing is working out, please don’t get discouraged or think that there’s something wrong with you. Remember, we’re in the middle of a pandemic. It’s really hard right now for everyone. You’re not alone! Take some time to breathe, and keep applying. It’s not easy, but you’ll get a job eventually. You can do it!!
Why in God's Name Do I Need to Fill Out Past Employment, When my Resume is Attached?
Not sure if this is the right place for this, but: already employed, just thought I'd post this for some discussion. Because this is legitimately stupid. &#x200B; Genuinely, what the hell and why? You have my resume, which details, in-depth, my past work experience, alongside achievements, certifications, etc. Why the hell are you making me fill out that information AGAIN?! Sometimes it's not just one time, there have been certain employers who made me do it THREE TIMES! And let's not forget that some of them also make you fill out references, even though you already have your references assigned in another document that you attached with your resume. Seriously, are job applications doing this to be as inconvenient as possible to the end user or are most of these websites just shoddily designed? What is the actual reasoning for wasting my damn time?
Two week notice?
Hey, I had an interview and they wanted to move forward. I signed the offer letter and my placement was contingent on passing a drug screen/background check. Well, I wasn’t 100% sure I’d pass so I held off on putting in my two weeks. My drug test came back yesterday and was considered dilute, so I have to retake it. I likely won’t get these results back until the beginning on next week. But In the offer letter, it said my start date would be the beginning of November which means in order for me to have two weeks notice, I should have gave my two weeks,last week. I obviously didn’t do that because I wasn’t sure I’d even get the job until the drug test came back. Now I have a week until my proposed start date and I still haven’t gave my current job any notice. I’m unsure what to do? Should I give a one week notice now? Even though I still haven’t gotten those drug results back yet?
Quitting a job after everyone else already quit
I Apologize in advance for the long post ahead: I’m putting in a three week notice today at my cafe job but I’m nervous about it. Mostly due to the fact I’ve only been there for a few months but there are several reasons why I am. The hiring process took so long, I applied in December and after the whole process, finally started the job late July 2020. When I interviewed, the supervisor let me know the schedules and hours and such. It was part time work since so many people worked there. She also said it’s a great place for flexible schedules if someone’s going to school or wants only a few days a week. This is what I was looking for since I was doing prereqs for a nursing program. When I was finally hired, out of 14 employees they had, 3 were left. I was told they quit because of bad management or became pregnant or were moving. Then, another one quit shortly after due to covid and no childcare options. So not including me, they had two employees left to run a cafe from 730am to 700pm, Monday through Friday. They had to close on Saturdays due to no employees. Now a week ago, one of the last two quit because she became pregnant and hated it there. I started to see what they were talking about. One manager is lazy and doesn’t help when it’s busy and needed. The other is a micromanager and is constantly scolding people for minor things (even when the same outcome is achieved). One day I worked with the micromanager alone, it was so busy that day. I never got any breaks, even when we would finally get a slow down with customers, he went back to his computer to sit and do paperwork (or would tell me he needed to take a break and hydrate leaving me alone to watch for customers). I worked 9 hours that day. He also gets mad if it’s slow and we’re not deep cleaning constantly, about gossip, or sitting for a few minutes. That was the day that kind of pushed me in this direction. The gossip is when the other girls talk about the problems and concerns with the place. My nursing program requires me to take an entrance test to get in, and I have to fly to the state to take it. With covid and quarantine, I would be gone for a few weeks at least. With so few employees I could guarantee they would say no I can’t take time off. So I decided to put in my notice. I feel conflicted because I am leaving them with one employee left and because I’m pretty much new. However, I have to focus on my future career and schooling (that comes first), I wasn’t wanting to work full time and I cannot stand working alone with the micromanager. Any advice on how to quit gracefully when I’m leaving them in a bad situation? TL/DR: Quitting my job after 4 months due to school and a micromanager boss and leaving them with 1 employee left. Advice on gracefully quitting?
Potential future employer keeps me hanging on
So I recently applied for a job at a place where I previously worked, but this time for a more senior position. I’ve proven myself an asset to their business in the past so I had thought that the application process would be much easier. However, I was contacted 6 days after my application was sent, I was then contacted by employer saying they’d like to meet me with me and that I was in their top 3 candidates. Over the duration of 5 days we conversed over phone calls, voice notes and messages, all of which felt like the employer was giving me very hazy details. As an organized individual I asked multiple times about a date, time and place for the meeting, as she suggested we meet for coffee somewhere (the business is quite a distance away). After much effort I finally elicited a response about the date, and made quite clear that because of my current work schedule I could only meet in the morning. The day arrives and with 20 minutes left before the morning is over, still don’t have a time, place or even definite confirmation of the meeting, even the follow up message I sent in the morning asking whether we’re still on and when and where, wasn’t answered. Honestly I’m posting this because I need some professional advice, does this sound to you like I should abandon all hope of getting the job? Or are these some form of power tactics? I’m not too sure how to analyze the situation
Had 2 of my dream jobs, they've both turned into huge disappointments
I generally work 2 jobs so I like to keep busy as I have an array of mental health issues and working helps keep my mental health on track. My main job is I'm a hotel night auditor for Hilton. Basically I'm the ghost of the front desk, I'm the person who is at the desk from 10 pm to 7 am making sure the hotel doesn't burn down, your neighbors stay quiet so you can have a restful night and I do the closing paperwork. This job is super easy, I'm literally being paid to watch tv, play video games, read books, etc for 9 hours, I love it and wouldn't trade it for the world. But I don't work 5 days a week, I work 4 days with 3 days off so this gives me quite a bit of time off so I fill that void with a 2nd part time gig. The first part time dream job I got was at Gamestop 2 years ago. I was well aware the possible bankruptcy filings that they've threatened for the last few years but I didn't care, I was working at a store that I treated as a second home before getting the job. Once I got the job it was great, I was hired as a Game Advisor and got along with all co-workers and guests. We had a keyholder position come available and I expressed interest in it to my assistant store lead, she then recommended to the store lead that I be the one to get it because I had seniority over all the other GA's, I was a permanent employee and the rest were seasonal. Store lead said he wouldn't promote me because I didn't have open availability, my hotel job at night supposedly interfered, I didn't see how but whatever. I got upset when I found out they promoted a GA to the position who also had a full time job and worked Gamestop part time, double standard, but maybe it was because he was a dude and I'm girl and the male customers didn't like asking me things because they felt I didn't know about anything regarding games, systems, etc. Fast forward a couple of months, me and another keyholder were working one night in the middle of winter so it was dead as hell in the store, all of our tasks were done so we were just playing on our phones. A former employee comes in and sees us and starts making a fuss about how we were slacking and seemed to be giving us a playful hard time. The next day I get called into the store to talk to management. Former employee called corporate and said we were refusing her service even though we both put our phones away after she gave us the hard time. District manager told store manager me and keyholder were to be fired. Store manager took all the blame, because he was ALWAYS on his phone and that's who we learned it was ok from. Job got saved but then shortly after that the store manager left to go open a donut shop. Assistant store lead was slated to get his job but corporate said she had too many complaints against her from customers, customers would argue with her over trade in policy and she stuck to her guns but to some customers she was a b\*tch, so she doesn't get the store lead. They bring in a new manager from the neighboring town's Gamestop, that first day the new lead turned the store upside down, immediately my hours go from 15-20/week to nothing. Assistant store lead tries to get me promoted once again, new lead immediately says no and not only no but as long as they are the store lead I will never move above guest advisor because she was warned about me and the phone incident so I put in my notice and left, I actually cried while writing my notice because I tried for years to get hired at a Gamestop between 5 different towns and finally got the job only to be told there would never be advancement for me despite me being more than qualified. 2nd dream part time job: Bath and Body Works. What female wouldn't want to work here? I got his job in June of this year after an unsuccessful attempt last year. All BBW stores were closed by corporate in March when the pandemic started so when they reopened our store most of the employees had found other jobs so they were doing a mass hire. I got the job on the spot. Manager was well aware that I was wanting 15-20 hours a week and said it would be no problem. I saw 20 hours TWICE and after that got decreased the least amount of hours they can give. The reason for the decrease is this. The first week she had me at 20 hours I had to put my newly purchased pre-owned Chevy Equinox in the shop for major repairs. The dealership didn't have any loaner cars available and I couldn't afford a rental, so I switched shifts/days off with other employees to make sure my shifts were covered since I had no way to get to work. The next week she gave me 20 hours was the week my full time job changed my days off, so BBW had me scheduled early morning shifts on my old days off which was hard for me to manage, by the 2nd day of doing early morning back to back shifts I had to trade shifts again. After that I started seeing a dramatic decrease in hours. I asked why it was and the manager said it was due to her having to hire an additional 30 seasonal employees and had to have hours available for them and their onboarding. 30!? On top of the already 20 we had prior to run a store the size of my duplex, which is not big by any means. I was told by other managers that my hours would go up once the majority of the seasonals were hired, that's been almost a month now, still only scheduled 1 day a week with 3 hours a shift. I found another part time job and put in my notice at BBW, now the manager is saying she only scheduled me so few hours because I kept calling in and trading shifts so she assumed it was because I was getting burnt out, never thought to ask if that was the case or not, which it wasn't. I called in a couple of times more recently because I've had a lack of motivation to go work some place where there are so many new people that its like I'm the new person coming in for my first day and everyone else acts like they've been there for years. I got a new new part time gig with Whole Foods doing in store shopping for their new 1 hour pick up. I'm really hoping this one pans out better than the previous 2.
I'm discouraged I can't change careers in the current state of the economy
I worked in a few different industries, but the one I have predominantly have been working in the most has been in retail management (brick and mortars). I have a bachelors degree in humanities and am currently working towards my MBA part time. However, I really want to start a new career now. There is no conflict with school with my class schedule. I have been apply for internships as a graduate student, but I have been declined by every single one of them. So the worst part about all of this is that I've been unemployed since late 2019 and when COVID-19 hit, I was in a worse place. Many companies closed positions, some companies shut down, and the types of opportunities and hiring were different. I started to see less opportunities available for someone in my position. Entry level positions would state that they wanted at least 3 or 5 years of experience in "these roles" or "this background." So during COVID, I've been trying to keep up my parent's house while they mainly work and sleep on work premises. I see them often so my contact with people is very strict so I don't risk their health. I also take care of a disabled brother. While my sister was pregnant and now has a new born baby, I've been doing errands for her and her husband to limit their exposure so they can maintain a disease free home as much as possible. All my other family members are going through their personal things and I routinely check on them. Today, I just broke down crying while I was driving by myself. I feel so scared about my future. Im going to be 31 years old and I'm not going to have a real career. My bachelors degree did not help me get a stable salary job after college. I feel like I wasted so much time and now that I arrived at this point in time, I have no idea if anything I did in the past was worth it. I can't talk to anyone about my problems because I don't want to put my problems on their life. Everyone is going through a hard time during this pandemic and I don't think my problems should be bigger than anyone else's. I'm so tired of looking. Day after day, I'm just grinding to help my family, do school work, and look for work. An internship would be nice, but I honestly just want to start my career. I've been trying my best to keep myself together during the pandemic, but I hit a wall today. I feel so hopeless. I don't know how else to get an opportunity as a career changer when I don't have experience in the corporate world. No one takes me seriously for working in retail. (I also live in a region that is very urban and metropolitan so it's competitive.) TLDR: I have not been able to find a job for about a year and COVID made it difficult to change careers. I feel so discouraged and hopeless with the nonstop cycle of not getting a opportunity despite all my efforts. (I have a bachelors degree and am working towards a masters on the side.)
Got an offer for a new job. Should I disclose to them that I have an LLC im trying to shut down?
I work in the software industry. While I was employed at my current company, I decided to start an Amazon store and I created an LLC for it in California, since I live there. I had to disclose it to my current company's HR since its a potential conflict of interest (it actually wasn't, the stuff I was selling on Amazon was completely unrelated to my employers business). Now, I have a verbal offer from another company (no formal letter yet, but the recruiter told me they are prepared to make me an offer). Should I let them know about this LLC, even though I'm trying to shut it down? This LLC is registered with the state of California under my name, so if the background check company knows my SSN, maybe they could look up this LLC? Thoughts? I really don't want to lose this offer due to a misstep on this issue so..
8 month into new job, I still hate it
To summarize, I changed jobs because of a bad boss. Took the first offer even though I knew it wasn’t really that ideal. The new job I got wasn’t really much of an upgrade. Less stressful for sure, but extremely boring compared to the old one (maybe I like crazy bosses after all? Lol). The make matters worse, the job role significantly changed because of the pandemic into something I don’t like doing at all. Would it be bad to start job searching now? I’m not miserable, but definitely not happy either. I’m also taking into consideration the fact that this pandemic might make the job search harder than it usually is into starting job hunting now rather than wait to finish a full year. What do I say in interviews if asked why I’m jumping ship so early after starting a new job? Thanks
I was asked to submit four letters of recommendation for a part-time job.
I recently applied for a part-time entry-level office assistant job for a company with under 20 people. The job description said it was ok to have no experience as they'll train you. I am also a current student in college so I thought this would be a good fit as the hours were later in the day while my classes are in the morning. I was contacted right away, the same day I applied and had two interviews back to back. The interviewer seemed to really like me. However, I noticed a few things in my interviews. The interviewer asked why I wasn't employed during the school year and only during summer breaks. I transferred schools, one closer to home where I commute from home. My previous school was in a different part of the state and isolated. I didn't have a car, there was no public transportation, and on-campus jobs were competitive/reserved for students with work-study. She also noted that I didn't have that much work experience but the job description stated that current college students can apply and they will train on the job. I also have experience working as a receptionist/office assistant for 5 months. The first interview went well that she wanted a second interview the next day so I was happy. After the second interview, she asked for four letters of recommendation, two from someone personal (a statement on character reference), and two from a former boss. I think this is a lot for a part-time job. The internship that I did before which was through the city that I reside in only asked for one letter of recommendation when I applied. This job also pays minimum wage but in my last retail job, I got paid over minimum wage. I don't want to burden my friends who are all working full-time, full-time students and working for their time to write a character reference letter. I am also still in contact a few of my former bosses but not the bosses I had for my recent jobs. This is the first time this has happened to me, the job where I was an office assistant/receptionist never asked me for letters of recommendation. Additionally, my interview was on a Wednesday and they wanted the letter of recommendation by Friday. That's two days to ask for letters of recommendation from friends and former bosses who are probably very busy. I feel that is also way too short of a notice to ask them as well. I decided that the cons outweigh the benefits of this job. Especially when my retail job paid me over the minimum wage and can find another retail job. I am going to politely write an email tomorrow, telling them I am no longer interested in the position.
Should I take the job??
I was offered a job with my same company. More money and a title promotion. “Great opportunity” for growth because it has super high visibility to the upper management. BUT, I know I won’t like doing the work as much as I like what I do now. AND I’m worried I’m not qualified enough to actually do the new job. Should I take it or not?
Why On Earth Is This Job Asking For High School Diploma & Transcripts
New Job Opportunities Not Valuing my work experience or Salary expectations.
**Background:** So I am an engineer with 3-5 years experience in the pharmaceutical industry with B.S. degrees in chemical engineering and chemistry. My work experience has been in product development and process design, compliance engineering, project management (process engineering, equipment installation and process upgrades, and some construction projects), and facilities management. I am not perfect, my only quality that may cause conflict in the workplace in the eyes of an employer is that I will, and do, directly stand up and speak out (politely but assertively) to upper management or bosses when they come up with a ludicrous idea that either violates regulation, industry code, or jeopardizes safety in the interest of cutting cost or that was technically not feasible or possible. It has caused a bruised ego of some 40-50 something year old high level manager or department head a few times. In the end I was respected for being the guy that dug his heels in when I identified an oversight in judgement of the higher ups and did the right thing to not let it slide. &#x200B; **Problem:** I lost my last job in July due to the pandemic and I have been having a very difficult time finding positions that are willing to meet my salary expectations (based on my pay at my last position) at my experience level. My savings are good, about 30k (I moved back in with family temporarily so my expenses are quite low). My compensation for my previous position was 90k in the MidWest, decent health insurance, 401k with up to 6% company matching,15 days pto, and even per-diem coverage of up to 6 flights a year to my hometown. Currently, in my job search I am finding many job postings that are offering salaries that are even less than entry level salaries were when I graduated college several years ago (40-65k). And most of the companies I have interviewed with have been unwilling to consider me for anything more than about 65-70k. My salary expectations are minimum of 80k, with my asking salary of 90-100k. I fully understand that some companies and industries have suffered due to the Covid pandemic, however corporate HR people that believe that I would be willing to work for a salary that is **less than or equal to what I made in my first job after college** is outright insulting at my experience level. Are other people facing this issue of depressed salaries in relation to their experience level as well?
Applying to a job that I interviewed for 6 months ago.
About six months ago, I found a temporary manager position at a hospital. I applied for the job and had a phone interview with the HR manager. I, unfortunately, did not proceed to the next round. I was looking today, and the hospital is hiring for the position I interviewed for, and it is now permanent. Is it ok to apply? Also, a follow-up question. I have ten years of experience in the healthcare field with lower-level management experience. I also have two diplomas, and I am in my second last semester of a bachelor's degree program. If I apply for the job, can I put on the resume that I have my degree? When I applied last time, I said I was a bachelor's student.
Do you actually like your job, and why?
Also what is the role?
Wondering why interviewer will not email me back ?
So I had a really good interview and I was asked in a email to do a second interview on a certain day which I already have scheduled arrangements that day that I cannot cancel. I'm literally free all the other days that week besides that day and I told him so and said sorry for the inconvenience. I have not heard back for almost a week. I am wondering if I should have just canceled my other scheduled arrangements and just agreed to it because now it feels like I blew my chance. I just dont understand why they cant email me back?
Why don't more people pursue careers in the Insurance industry?
Upcoming grad in December that was recently offered a FT position as an Underwriter, so I may be biased. Yes, Insurance isn't the sexiest industry... but it's largely recession proof (stable employment), pays okay (in corporate roles), has pretty good benefits, and to me is a very interesting industry (at least much more interesting than Corporate Finance/Accounting/Engineering/etc.). But for some reason, is not very popular to my fellow college peers. In fact, as a business student, I've encountered exactly 0 people interested in a career in Insurance. What gives?
I was approached for a job opportunity with a salary I though was adequate, after an HR screener interview I realized that the salary was too low for the job, how should I negotiate up?
So I got contacted on LinkedIn for a position as an eCommerce manager at a small company. I was told the salary from the get go, and it seemed fine. However, after an HR screening interview I realized that the salary is too low for the level of responsibility (I would be entirely in charge of exapnding the brand into the US market). The recruiting process works like this: 1Psychometric test 2 HR screener 3 Business case <---------I'm here 4 Team leader interview 5 Area director I want to negotiate up the salary by 20%, I believe that I have a strong negotiating position given that the HR director contacted me directly through LinkedIn and that I know from talking to the recruiter that this is a difficult position to fill. &#x200B; At which stage of the process should I bring this up? I realize that I should have done that during the HR screener, but that's gone by. I don't think that the Team leader is the one deciding the salaries, but I feel like this is something that I should bring up as soon as possible. &#x200B; What do you think?
Everything about my new job is great except for the low pay
Graduated in August with my bachelors. I have some job experience, internship experience, and I got a job that is absolutely amazing except for that it pays 13 an hour- absolute shite. I feel so conflicted. On one hand, my boss is amazing, my coworkers are nice, it’s not too far from my house (which is a huge place since I get to avoid a busy highway,) and I have flexibility in my schedule. But 13 an hour is so low considering I have my bachelors, experience, and considering all of the work I do. I do billing, all of the filing, phone, new client intakes, insurance verifications, a lot of event planning (Halloween for clients, Christmas for clients and staff, Easter for clients, etc) and a BUNCH of random tasks. I’m an assistant office manager/administrative assistant... I feel like I should be getting more than 13 😭 at least 16. My coworker told me that the boss would never give a 3$ raise in less than a year even though I feel like I should have started out around 16. Does anyone have advice? Can anyone just give me their input? I just need someone to talk to about this and give me some hope about the future :(
I have an interview tomorrow for a sales position at a car dealership. I’m in desperate need of advice!!
I applied for a sales consultant position at a car dealership a couple of days ago and received a phone call looking to schedule an interview. I have no experience in sales and am very nervous as I don’t know what I’m in for. Their job posting mentioned that often times their new hires have no sales experience and come from a customer service background. I have over a years worth of experience in customer service but even that is minimal. I updated and improved my resume, made as good of a cover letter as possible, and sent in my application. I somehow managed to be given an interview on a days notice and I am incredibly nervous. I don’t expect I will get the job but I know I can perform well if they give me the opportunity. I’m just looking for some advice of how to prepare, what I can expect, and how to raise my chances of getting hired. Anything is appreciated! Thank you!
How much of a commute is too much, or how much pay is enough to justify the commute?
I'm currently on the third interview for a position (first was a call, second was a video chat with part of the team, third will be in person with the director and meeting most of the team). It's a job that I'm very capable of doing, and would probably excel at. My experience puts me at about 90% of what they're looking for. The woman who would be my immediate supervisor has suggested that she and the crew I met via video really want to work with me. I know that nothing is real until it's official, but I'm feeling confident. BUT, there are a few things that make me think twice. First of all, since this position is essentially new, HR hasn't finalized the pay range yet, so I don't actually know what the pay rate would be. Research suggests that the range will likely come in between 30 and 50k a year. If the job was right around the corner, I would consider it even at the low end of that range... But as the title suggests, there's a commute. In fact, I would spend just under two hours in the vehicle each work day. There is potential down the road that I may work one or two days a week remotely, but not starting out. I've had commutes before, but not this big on a daily basis. Normally, I myself would probably advise against the commute, but in the area that we moved to a few years ago for my wife's job, there aren't a lot of work opportunities very often. I've been working as a house painter for a little under a year, and I worry that the longer I work in that trade, the less likely I will be able to work in my field. My thinking is that I could work this job for a year or two — if the money was right — to start adding recent experience to my resume and hopefully open doors in the future. As my wife and I weigh and measure, I was hoping some of you might share some of your thoughts and experiences with me, as additional food for thought. Thanks in advance!
Always finishing second because lack of experience
I've now had 4 final round interviews in a relatively short time frame. After each one the HR person has gotten back to me and said they offered the other candidate but I was their second choice if they declined. They said there was no negative feedback. The last two specifically said we wanted you here but the person we went with had a little more full time experience. I'm fresh out of college, had two internships, currently working as a contractor, did some really cool projects for large companies, and took online courses to sharpen my skills while I look. How am I supposed to get experience when no one will give me a chance? This last rejection was really defeating. I hate looking for jobs every day and feel like I can't even find one that seems somewhat interesting anymore. The worst part is I wasn't supposed to be here. At the beginning of this year I had a full time offer from a great company, but that was rescinded because of the pandemic. I don't know what more to do.
One Tip That Has Helped Me During Video and Phone Interviews
I've done a fair amount of video and phone interviews up to this point. At the beginning of the process, I was fully dressed from head to toe in professional attire, I had to listen to specific songs right before, and really I would just put so much pressure on myself and my interview routine. Now I still take interviews very seriously and according to the interviewer I'm dressed professionally but I have jeans or sweatpants on below and flips flops. I don't superstitiously have to listen to certain "good luck" songs before or do anything else like that. I still have my routine of getting dressed, putting on my makeup, drinking an energy drink, and relaxing but I don't make every interview seem like a life or death situation. I just try and not overthink them as much as I used to. It's hard but it's possible. An interview is just that. If a job is "perfect" for you they will see that. Try and not add more pressure onto yourself than you are already putting on. I hope this made sense.
Would you put your short term current position on your resume?
I only had current position since 4 months ago; previous position before this was much higher and almost 2 years, before I had to move away. I must leave the current one because it’s far away and controller micromanages me into oblivion. Only the job title sounds good. I just want to find a job where I’m allowed to use my skills. Should I leave resume as is but with a bit of a gap, and tell potential employers I’m currently working but is not relevant Or should I put my current position and hope they give me an interview and don’t see me as a job hopper so I can explain why I wish to move on. I already have bad gaps from years ago. I Always worked in a bad economy
I'm having a good number of interviews, without them turning into job offers, and I'm not able to identify why.
I'm a recent PhD in an Engineering field from a reputable university, and have a couple of years' working in the industry as well (Prior to my PhD). I have been looking to transition into the industry again (Fairly certain about not wanting to remain in Academia). I have had quite a few interviews, but I'm never able to convert them into job offers, and I'm unable to point out one specific reason. I have tried doing mock-interviews with other people, and in some cases, have been able to get feedback from hiring managers who had interviewed me as well, and I always get good feedback. For example, recently, I had multiple rounds of interview with a product development consulting firm, and I thought things went quite well. However, I ended up not being given an offer. The hiring manager who had reached out to me to apply for the position said that they were all impressed by my background, but hired someone else who had interned for them in the past, and suggested that I gain more 'internship experience' in any specific place I want to work at. In another case, the hiring manager said that I seemed very 'entrepreneurial', and I'm not entirely sure what he meant by that. At this point, I'm fairly exhausted and depressed - It seems pointless to keep trying to do the same thing over again without actually fixing potential issues. I've started looking at postdoc jobs in relevant geographic areas, so I can transition into the industry from there. What should my most effective strategy for identifying and fixing problems should be?
Boss keeps calling me in the day of?
Hello, I work at a restaurant as a server almost full time. I know there are going to be times where I am called in etc However, I’m getting asked about a schedule change or called in on the day of at least 2-3 times a week now. It’s not because someone calls out either, it’s due to poor scheduling. I’m starting to get annoyed. I use to respond I will try to be there early, or I can’t because _____. Now I’m just thinking to either respond “I can’t” or wait a couple hours. How to deal with this without causing conflict?
Had an uncomfortable interview this week with a rude interviewer. Feel free to share your frustrations here too
It was a final-stage interview. Dude was late, which I was totally fine with given that he had a tight schedule. The interview started off very weirdly. I could tell that he seemed irritated and uninterested. I got flashbacks from the interview with my ex-company, which I had left due to the insane hours and mismanagement. I had a similar interviewer with a nasty attitude, tells you a lot about the culture. Anyway, back to this guy. He needed to know all my schooling history, from elementary up to university. I even had to explain why my grades had fallen. (I admit, I should have considered withdrawing from the interview at this point) But I foolishly continued entertaining the dude. He even got as far as to push me to explain specifically what "health issue" I had encountered. The interviewers I came across usually tip-toe around this question as they understood that medical history is one's privacy. Yeah, I suffered from depression. I understand if he thinks that my personality would not fit the team and the "fast-paced work environment", but at least send the message across with some manners. Idk. At one point I started to understand that this interviewer in front of me hated his life. He complained about the work-life but always wrapped up his mini vent sessions with an optimistic note. People with a horrible work life usually try to justify those hours by thinking they are doing it for growth and a greater good. Everyone has their own beliefs, and I admire the resilience of those who can survive overtime. But I also know that it is not for me. Well, looks like I have to go back to the job search. Tbh I am burning out a little from months of applications, assessments, interviews and rejections. I went through one screening and another 1-hour case study to reach this final stage and I got treated like crap. In the end, the interviewer apologized for being late. Totally missed the point. I don't care that you were running late or something. Please, treat other human beings decently. It will affect your company's image. Sorry, just needed to vent. Edit: I did not expect the number of responses... and thanks for the awards T\^T I can't reply to every comment but I read them all. For the jobseekers, let's hang in there, a better opportunity will come by. (Sometimes I think I still have to improve my mental resilience. I usually try to understand that maybe the interviewer just had a bad day (like my ex-boss), but interrogating about health and irrelevant grades were simply a no-no.) Thanks again for those who left informative and reassuring comments or are kind enough to share their stories, it really made my day. I didn't sleep much last night as I was crying lmao. Much love <3
Is it impostor syndrome or am I genuinely incompetent?
TL;DR: Don't know whether I suffer from impostor syndrome or I am genuinely incompetent at my job that I've been at for a little over 5 months. In the listing my position called for more years of experience than I have, and this is something my boss is aware of. Yet, I hardly ever meet her expectations. She refuses to promote me to full-time staff (I am currently a temp), even though she promised she would months ago. Three months ago, she expressed dissatisfaction with the speed with which I complete work as well as my not meeting the level of desired independence for an employee at my level. I feel like she is constantly displeased with me, and everyone on my team (including the boss) expresses how great the man who previously held my position, was, even though I have uncovered several mistakes he's made during his time there. Is it my fault for accepting a job whose requirements may be above my standard abilities? Or is it my boss's fault for selecting a candidate who may have not fit the job requirement? . . . . . I feel like everyday, I am amounting to and uncovering new challenges regarding the numerous aspects of my job as a statistical data analyst for a neuro-trauma lab. Recently, I have managed to overcome part of my social anxiety and managed to start asking more questions and search for help when needed. However, in spite of this (small) improvement, I still feel utterly incompetent at my job, and rarely exceed let alone satisfy the expectations from my boss. I really want to impress her--and keep my job--but I feel like nothing I ever do is good enough. I still don't always understand what she asks of me, and she sometimes seems frustrated when I ask for clarification (although this might just be me projecting). She's expressed concern before (two months into this position), that I wasn't acclimating fast enough, meaning she thinks I wasn't acting independently enough and expressed concern that I never took initiative to meet with people, thus making me a poor communicator, in addition to my under-performance. Although I have vastly improved in regards to my communication, I still fear that I'm under-performing. This fear is also compounded by the fact that she refuses to promote me to full-time staff and I remain a temp, despite her promising me that she would be promote me to full-time staff when I started in May. I guess, she's still unsure about me and doesn't want to have to pay any sort of severance in case she decides I'm not worth fully-onboarding as a full-time staff employee. One of the reasons I may be finding it hard to acclimate is that this position has higher demands and requires more experience than I actually possess. However, she was the one that hired me knowing I had just completed graduate school and didn't really have any real-world experience. Maybe she was thinking I could just land on my feet? Either way, I feel like I never meet any of the expectations she sets for me, even when I do work overtime (unpaid overtime as well). But she's a workaholic who does 60 hour weeks. Everyone also talks about the man who previously held my position in such high regard that I feel even shittier about my job performance. I just feel like I might bit off more than I can chew by accepting a job with requirements way above my skill level, but I also feel like my boss has an unrealistic expectations. I genuinely don't know who is to blame, maybe it's both? Who would you say is at fault? How was your work climate like when you first onboarded? Did anyone actually train you or did they expect you to know how to work certain programs already? Did anyone ever start/take a position that seemed to require more experience and knowledge than you seemingly had. Any advice/help would be greatly appreciated. I feel like I don't know what's going on. Did my boss unknowingly hire someone with less experience, or did she just decide to take a chance on me despite my lack of experience and see whether I reach her expectations regarding work quality and independence? Either way, I regret turning down a position whose credentials I genuinely filled. Maybe then I wouldn't be in this of purgatory wondering if I'll still have a job next month, and perhaps wouldn't be as stressed and overworked as I am now.
Don't be afraid to fight for yourself, and know your worth
Backstory: A couple of months ago I was offered a job (just as everything was closed down due to covid) after mulling it over and talking to some friends/colleagues it became clear they were gouging my starting wage. I asked if they would be open to negotiate and they said that the starting wage was standard for their new hires (colleagues who worked for the company indicated otherwise). At this point I was a bit miffed and sent them a professional yet piquant email informing them I didn't think we were a fit at the time and that I wished them luck in find someone appropriate for the wages offered; additionally I attached my resume that I used to apply to their job. Today I got offered a fair wage for my experience. Don't be afraid to walk away from a job offer if you know they're taking advantage of you, chances are they're going to keep taking advantage of you as an employee.